What writers want you to know

1. We choose what we want to share to the world. 

Blogs are neither rant journals nor a pages of secrets. Sometimes great thought is put into what we share, while sometimes it's whatever is on our minds. We are selective. 

2. Reading our blogs DOES NOT mean that you know us.

You can never tell what a person's life is like just by reading their blog. Do not use a person's work to tell them that you know that they've been "going through something". As a reader, you are an outsider to their world and have no right to say what you truly don't know. Read, appreciate and stay in your lane. 

3. A blog is not an open invitation for sympathy. 

The misconception that writers only write sad things is absurd. Therefore, if a writer is honest and open, do not abuse their vulnerability to try and comfort when it was never asked of you. A blog is never a call for a pity party. For some, writing is therapeutic. Don't ruin it for them. 

4. What you see is what you get.

Don't put your twist on what you read . Usually, blogs that are much like journals are truthful and open. Don't add false information and don't make assumptions. 

5. We are always grateful for supportive readers. 

Blogs give you a chance to relax, unwind and see a portion of someone else's world. We love that our work can be relatable and touch others' minds. We love our readers. Thank you all so much  ❤️

Why Melanin don't "POP SEVERELY" in real life

It's 12:41 am and my eyes are heavy but scrolling through Instagram makes me want to write about the obvious .. 

Why is our shade a TREND ? 

Why is it that my melanin only "pops" online when in real life WE both know that it will be overlooked ? 

#blackgirlmagic was created to allow black girls to feel beautiful and like they matter 

But why only use it for a hashtag when there's nothing else behind it ? 

All in the name of social media.

Cause the girl you complimented online about her shade, you just made fun of in real life.

The hypocrisy is a shame .

In the back of our minds we know that it's really the "lightskins" that get all the attention right ? 

My melanin is not a trend. 

Be genuine with compliments. 

Uplift in person just as how you "uplift" on social media. 

Or don't say anything at all.

Are Relationships Worth it ?

Firstly, let me say that looking to a blog for answers on if a relationship is worth it is perhaps not the best move, but here you are lol . Only you can truly know what is for you and what works best in your life . There are people who leave this earth the same way that they came .. SINGLE ! I don't believe anything is ever wrong with that because I don't believe that relationships are for everyone. 

#Relationshipgoals is that one hashtag that I HATE. This generation fantasizes relationships based on a few pictures that the couple chooses to show. Matching outfits, posing with money, flossing together at the club - Relationsjip goals right ? Then you definitely shouldn't be in a relationship. 

A union is much more than pictures. It's hard work, consistency and learning to be selfless in a selfish universe. If you're not ready to settle with just one person, to share not just your happiest moments but your most shameful, heartbreaking or irritating ones, then a relationship is not for you. If you easily compare what you have to what someone else has, then a relationship isn't for you boo .

The best condition you can ever be in as a person is one in which you have self-awareness, gratefulness for life and true love for yourself. After all of these, you may be strong enough to handle your baggages as well as those of your significant other.

Giving in to the pressure to "look cute in a relationship will have you delusional and perhaps embarrassed in the future. Know what the foundation is made of. Is it a sturdy one, or will the wind of life blow it flat to the ground? This means that if you're with someone who "ain't shit" then prepare to have an "ain't shit relationship". You will be no exception of disappointments if you see red flags and continue as though everything is perfectly fine , just for the sake of everyone else.

Before anything , think : Am I ready ? Do I know who I am ? Have I achieved personal goals ? Am I doing this justbecause  everyone else is? 

A relationship should be a beautiful thing. There will be annoying days and days where you both will say things that you don't mean, but the love shared should be genuine, pure and comforting. Happiness begins inside and that's how you're able to share it with your partner. One step at time, respecting your rhythm together and helping each other grow.

Take your time . 

Find yourself. 

Breathe. 

Genuine things come at perfect timing.